First dates are right up there with international espionage in terms of anxiety and frustration. What’s worse is that one of the things we decide to do for a first date is that we choose to spend time with someone we like, we choose one of the many movies out now, sit in a dark, giant room with a bunch of other strangers, and say nothing for almost two hours. Epic fail.
But if you are really both OK with going to a movie for a first date, you need to think about ways to avoid mistakes so that there will hopefully be a second date. In fact, the movie can be a real game-changer because you may not have a ton to talk about, so talking about the movie can be a relief.
Here are a few tips to take into consideration when trying to pick the right movie for your first date:
1. Don’t watch a movie with a lot of excessive violence or adult themes. The last thing you want to do is make your date think that this is a representation of who you are. It’s never a good look, and regardless of the spin you try to put on it, it just comes off as bad taste.
2. On the other hand, avoid movies whose intended audience is one digit. If there is one thing that most people do not want to be privy to is a date in a state of arrested development. You’re both adults, and you want to be sure you choose a movie that at least acknowledges that maturity.
3. Be weary of romantic comedies. Many people consider these movies to be fool-proof, but be warned — unless you have a sense of the type of discourse and conversation you’d like to have with your date, you may be opening up the proverbial Pandora’s box of first-date poison.
4. If you plan on incorporating dinner at some point, why not try going to a dine-in theater that not only has a great movie-watching environment but also has gourmet food and adult libations on tap? This way, you avoid perhaps the most cardinal of first-date rules — don’t be late to anything.
5. Always have a back-up plan ready. No one wants to think about it, but unfortunately, things go wrong on dates, but having a good attitude that can both diffuse a tough situation and show a spontaneity can get things back on track. Have a couple of movies to choose from in case one is sold-out. If you do happen up upon your local dine-in theater and your meal isn’t exactly right (and barring reasons based on allergies), take it in stride, eat heartily, and discuss the matter with management after the movie.
All told, the movies out right now provide a wide array of movie-watching experiences. You really can’t lose picking any one of them. In order to pick the best one for your first date, though, you just need a little confidence, a little research, and a strong desire to step up your game.